Assets are like rubber bands. When there is a tendency, I can only stretch up to a certain point before it snaps back.
The rubber band provides a perfect metaphor to understand the cycle that includes the approach maneuvers, and then removal of rapprochement.
Most persons are surprised realizing that, even when he is in love, an active periodically feels the need to move away again and shorten the distances. A need felt instinctively that the assets. This is not a decision or a choice. It happens! According to many persons, assets tend to leave just when they aspire to greater intimacy and a deeper communication. The reasons are Two:
1) On an unconscious level a person feels the removal of the companion, and for this reason, Krka to strengthen the link saying "Let's talk." Because he shows no signs of rapprochement, ends incorrectly concluded that he does not want to talk about him or do not care.
2) When a person opens with her partner, a place of his innermost feelings, can actually trigger in him the need to get away. An active can tackle only a certain degree of intimacy before his inner alarm goes off, warning that arrivatro is the time to find balance through a temporary assignment.
For a person is always disconcerting when a man moves away because of something that was said or done. Usually when a person begins to palrlare with feeling, the partners felt the impulse to break away. The fact is that the feelings bring people together and create intimacy and closeness when it becomes excessive, the focus moves away automatically.
This does not mean you do not want to hear about what you feel. At another point in its cycle of intimacy, when it feels the need to close, just the feelings that triggered the need to leave him in the back to attract a partner.
The liabilities are in waves. When you feel loved, her self-esteem grows and set with a rocking motion. E 'frequent that reached its peak, his mood changes abruptly and the wave may be shattered. Once you reach the bottom, there it is back again, feeling peace with himself. The wave was launched again.
When the wave is high, a person feels he has plenty of love to give, during the descent, however, feels a sense of inner emptiness and the consequent need to fill it with love. These are the moments in which he feels the emotional need for a cleanup.
If the moment of maximum wave height has stifled or ignored the negative feelings that you wish his aim of being more loving, it is inevitable that during the downward perception of these negative feelings and unmet needs become painfully clear. These are the moments when he most needed to talk about their problems and to be heard and understood.
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